Introverted vs. extroverted feeling

Each turns into its opposite when unhealthy: the introverted feeler becomes judgmental and absolutist, allowing the other no freedom to live according to their own inner dictates. Here the extroverted feeler, because they naturally try to understand other people, knows that they have a good reason (or a reason that feels good to them at least) for doing what they do. On the other hand, the unhealthy extroverted feeler, because there is nothing worse to them than selfishness, has to hide their selfishness from themselves which turns it even more brutal and selfish, where an introverted thinker can see the dark side of themselves and others and accept it.

Extroverted feeling is fond of saying what they believe “people should” do; people should be selfless, people should be kind, people should be thoughtful… but they often struggle with living up to their own standards. Introverted feeling demands that the world let them live according to their own inner beat… but they often struggle to allow others the same freedom, as they are convinced that they have found the best, most beautiful values. Both extroverted and introverted feeling believes its values are, or should be, self-evident truths. This is why both can be extremely judgmental when unhealthy; this leads both to losing the things they most value. For introverted feeling, it’s individual freedom; for extroverted feeling, they destroy the harmony, love, and good feeling.